We teach our kids new lessons every day. We use a lot of play and activity ideas for them to learn a lot of new things. But the truth is that the most precious lessons that we give to our children are the ones that are hidden behind our everyday words and actions. I thought a lot about this in the past weeks. What are the things I want my child to learn from me? What kind of lessons does he learn from what I do or say?
Children watch us every day and what they see or hear will guide them through life! We are the role models they have in front of their eyes all the time and this is a huge responsibility! The things that we say or do will define the way they will understand life and most of all the way they will think about themselves. I once read that children are like a mirror of the parents because they tend to do what they see. And as parents, we need to make sure that we give them a really good reflection.
This thought makes me want to become a better person every day. It makes me want to be the kind of adult I would want my child to become. I cannot teach him about courage if I don’t dare to follow my dreams. I cannot teach him about kindness if I’m not kind with the people around me. Motherhood is not only a journey of raising a child. It’s a journey of raising us to be the role models that our children deserve!
Here are the things I want my child to learn from me. I only hope that he will learn these lessons from me, even if I will also make mistakes along the way!
I want him to treat every person with kindness. He needs to know that people need kind words from us even when they seem to deserve them the least. And I want him to know that he always deserves to be treated with kindness and no one ever has the right to treat him otherwise.
I hope that he will learn that respect always matters. Respect means more than polite words. It means respecting other people’s feelings and opinions. And it also means respecting our own values and principles in everything that we do!
Real beauty lies in people hearts and not in their appearance and I want him to know this! I hope that he will cherish a kind heart more than a pretty look. And that he will never judge other people by their appearances.
Courage is not about not being afraid. It’s about being afraid and still doing what makes you feel scared. This is what I want him to know! I wish that he will follow his dreams even if they scare him. I wish that he will always find the courage to listen to his heart and live his life with joy and daring!
We often forget that this is one of the most important lessons that a person needs to learn. Every child needs to know that he is valued and that his dreams and wishes really matter! When a child knows this, he will always know to ask of others to respect him. He will always have confidence in himself and he will never let others treat him badly!
I want him to know that happiness is our own responsibility! That no one else is responsible for making us happy. That we don’t need to expect other people to make us happy. And also that other people’s happiness is not our responsibility. Too many children grow up wishing to make their parents happy as if this is their responsibility. Later in life, they end up wanting to make other people happy (their partner, their bosses and so on). And they easily forget about their own right to be truly happy.
This is a very precious lesson that I learned very late. This is why I want him to know this now! I want my child to grow up knowing that he doesn’t need to make me or anyone else happy. I want him to always pursue his happiness because no one else can do it for him!
I hope that he will learn to give with all his heart and that he will feel good about helping others! He needs to know that the way he wants others to treat him should be the way that he treats other people.
I want him to know that failure doesn’t define us! Failure is only an opportunity to learn to do things better. I wish that he will never give up despite all obstacles. Perseverance is what makes us stronger every time we fail and is the only way we can ever reach success.
This is the most important lesson that I want him to learn from me! I try to show him each and every day that he is loved and valued for who he is. I want him to know that he deserves to be loved exactly how he is. And that nothing that he does could ever stop me from loving him! I want to teach him that true love is always unconditional. I wish that he will love with all his heart and I hope that he will always have around him people that will love him in the same way!
Unconditional love is the most precious gift that we can give to our kids! A child who knows that he is loved and valued will become an adult who is confident and happy. He will know that he deserves love and he will not be afraid to love with all his heart! This is my biggest hope of all: that his life will be filled with love and happiness!
One day I will no longer be part of his everyday life! One day he will have his own life far away from me and in that moment I can only hope that these life lessons will accompany him. I hope that he will look back and he will feel lucky to have learned them! Then, I will know that all I’ve done as a parent was really worthwhile!
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