It’s already the middle of January and I’m glad to write the first update about my parenting challenge. The first month of the challenge is dedicated to connection and therefore I looked for some ideas for creating a better connection with my son and building a stronger relationship with him.
After the last months of 2016, that were busy and full of changes for us, I really felt that we need to use this time for reconnecting and finding a new emotional balance for the two of us. We needed some time to adjust to the move to California and the fact that we are far away from our friends, so we went through a challenging period. The connection between us was one of the few things that remained the same after this big change, so it became even more important for me to show him my love and support and help him to adjust to our new life.
Even if we wouldn’t have gone through all of this, I think that a month dedicated to connection is the best way to start a parenting challenge, because it’s the fundament for making all the other activities really pleasant and enjoyable for both of us.
I searched for some great ideas to help us connect in a playful way and I made a short plan for this month. I’m sharing it with you hoping to inspire you to join us on the challenge and to build together a better relationship with our kids. 🙂
I am a stay at home mom now, so I get to spend a lot of time with Bogdan and this plan is based on this. If you are a working mom or you have more children the plan may seem more difficult to put into practice, but you can adjust it in a way that allows you to include it in your daily life.
As I told you, the plan is focused on building a strong connection, so I try to integrate this goal in our everyday schedule.
Things I try to do every day:
– 2 sessions of special time
Each session has approximately 10 minutes, so it’s not hard to integrate them into our schedule. The special time is a time when we do something that Bogdan wants. The main rule for the parent is to be 100% focused on the child, without any distractions.
I wrote HERE about why the special time is important and I shared some ideas for special time if you need some inspiration.
– a mini dance party (just the two of us, in the living room)
I noticed that a dance party is a perfect way to have fun together and that he really enjoys it, so I plan to make it a daily habit. The idea is very simple: I play a playlist with children songs and we dance together on the floor for half an hour. He is very happy to dance and this is a great way to drain his energy and I really enjoy it too! It’s perfect to be free to dance in the middle of the living room once a day, so it is totally worth trying it!
A useful tip: I noticed that for Bogdan it’s difficult when the special time or the dance party is over. It’s a normal thing and I read that the fact that sometimes the children cry at the end of a special time is just a way they use to eliminate their frustrations, so it’s a good thing to be near them and help them get over the difficult moment. A method I implemented for the dance party is the alarm clock on the cell phone. I explain to him that we can have a dance party for half an hour before I start preparing the lunch and the set the alarm after 25 minutes. When the alarm rings we know that we have 5 more minutes to dance and we put it on snooze. When the alarm rings the second time, we know that the party is over. This method really worked for us, so maybe it will help you too.
– a “cuddling session”
This comes naturally because we really enjoy cuddling and giving each other lots of hugs, but I write this down as a reminder to be sure I make time every day for (at least) a cuddling moment. 🙂
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Things I try to do every week:
– one mom-son date
I wrote some days ago about ideas for mom-child dates, so we really plan to put them into practice. For example today we went together to the zoo in San Francisco and we had a great time. 🙂
The idea of the mom-child dates is really wonderful because they make the kids feel important. I use the date invitations too (you can find the printable in the article) and I hope this will become a nice tradition in our family. I plan to encourage my husband to try some dad-son dates soon, I hope he will enjoy the idea too.
– a “connection activity”
This is an idea I really like because it’s about finding nice activities to show to the child how loved he is. For example one day we took a big piece of paper and we draw on it all the people that love him (we added some pets too 🙂 ). At the end, we had a lot of people on the drawing and he was very happy to see they all love him.
Another idea is to look through a photo album with some photos of family members and friends and to talk together about nice memories that the child has with them. I have some nice photos with Bogdan’s grandparents and his friends from the creche, so he is really happy to see them and to talk about the nice things he did with them. Another idea I liked is to read together a book about the love between mom and child. The children are really happy to read about this and to be reassured over and over again that we love them very much and that we will be always together.
If you have other ideas for these activities I would be glad to find them out and try them!
Additional ideas from other blogs
During my search for ideas for the first month of my parenting challenge I found two articles that were really useful and inspiring, so I think they will inspire you too:
I hope you will enjoy these ideas and you will put them into practice with your kids! I would be glad if you would join me in this parenting challenge, it would be great to know that other parents will be inspired by my ideas. 🙂
I wish you a wonderful January with a lot of nice activities with your children!