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Inside: Discover easy and powerful ideas to help you connect with your child using the fifth of the 5 love languages of children: acts of service. They can make a big difference and help you build a strong relationship with your child!
Discovering the 5 love languages of children and using them to show kids how loved they are will unlock their heart and make them very happy!
This is why I decided to start a series of articles focused on easy ideas to express love and connect with the kids using the love languages.
If your child has physical touch as their primary love language you’ll find here easy ideas that you can use anytime you want to make them feel loved.
The 5 love languages of children
The concept of love languages was introduced by Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell. They explained that people have different ways to express and receive love. It’s very important for any relationship to be able to “speak” the love language of the partner.
This applies to couple relationships but also to the parent-child relationships and any other close relationships in our lives. They focused more on how this applies to kids in their book – “The five love languages of children“.
The 5 love languages of children are physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, and quality time.
How to discover your child’s love language
Learning the love language of your child can have a big impact on your relationship. It was a lesson that was very precious to me and I’m sure that it can make a big difference for you too!
Here are some easy ways to do discover your child’s love language:
- aks your child what makes them feel loved
- try to use the 5 love languages one by one and notice how your child reacts to each of them
- for young children use role play using stuffed animals to find out how your child sees love
- notice how your child expresses their love for you (it might offer you good clues on how they want to receive love).
People usually have one primary love language and one secondary love language so don’t be surprised if you discover characteristics from two or more categories.
You can find more details about the 5 love languages of children and their importance in this article.
Love languages of children: Acts of service
Kids who have acts of service as their primary love language enjoy when people do nice things for them. They love to see you involved in their activities and projects.
Also, doing special things for them (like preparing their favorite meals or doing one chore they would normally do) makes them feel happy.
If your child fits into this category, here are some easy ways to show them love and make them feel happy.
1. Prepare their favorite meal.
2. Do a chore that your child was supposed to do.
3. Help your child with small tasks like cleaning up their toys or finishing a school project.
4. Let your child help anytime they want and let them know you appreciate their help.
5. Do household tasks together (like doing the laundry or preparing dinner).
6. Make a list of your child’s favorite things to do and create a bucket list of things to do together.
7. Implement family contributions instead of chores and work together to make your home a happy place.
8. Invite your child to do random acts of kindness together.
9. Volunteer together at an animal shelter.
10. Offer to help your child with school projects.
11. Surprise your child by cleaning or organizing their room.
12. Prepare a special bubble bath for your child.
13. Help your child learn a new skill or improve one of their skills.
14. Prepare your child’s favorite drink or snack and bring it to them.
More ideas to help you connect with your kids
- The easy habit that will help you spend quality time with your child every day
- The magic relationship ratio that will make you a better parent
- 65 things to do with kids under five that will make them happy (and you too!)
Other love languages of children
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