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Everyone talks about how wonderful it is to have a child and about all the joy motherhood brings. And it all sounds so good!
But no one talks about the other side of the story.
The part where motherhood is hard, exhausting, and overwhelming.
I wish I knew this before becoming a mother. It wouldn’t change my decision about having a baby, but I strongly believe it would have made things easier.
No one ever told me how difficult it would be, and when I faced reality, I felt alone and guilty.
At first, I thought I am the only one who feels it’s so hard. I felt like I was doing something wrong because motherhood seemed so easy for others and so challenging for me.
In the first months, I was alone with my baby at home for almost the whole day. At night I woke up several times for breastfeeding him. So it all seemed overwhelming!
One day my baby was crying, so I took him in my arms and sat on the couch.
I was tired, and it seemed like nothing could stop his cry. So I just stood there, hugging him and telling him I am sorry I cannot do anything else to soothe him.
I felt lost, and tears were rolling down my cheeks.
He cuddled in my arms and stopped crying as if he understood me. At that moment, I realized that when motherhood feels hard, my love for my child will help me go through all the challenges.
And I promised myself that I will always be honest about how hard it is to be a mother because I strongly believe that every mother needs to hear this, to know that she is not alone, and to be reassured that she is going a great job.
Being a mother means many sleepless nights, a continuous struggle to get things done right, and a lot of challenges to face every day.
Ever since I became a mom, I learned a lot of things about me, I faced challenges I didn’t even imagine, and I grew stronger with every new stage in my child’s life.
It didn’t become easier, and maybe it won’t become easier soon, but at least I know now that I’m not alone, that being a mother is sometimes hard and, most of all, that I can find the strength to be a better mother every day.
If you are a new mom, I just want to tell you it’s okay to feel lost, frightened, or overwhelmed.
Motherhood is hard.
Every mom feels that at some point, and it’s part of our “job” as moms. It doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. It just means you need to give yourself a break and ask for help.
Being a mom is not always so glamorous and wonderful as it might seem when you look at the perfect photos on Facebook or when you hear those joyful experiences other moms tell in the park.
Motherhood is a real full-time job that requires a lot of patience, kindness, responsibility, and unconditional love. And it’s not easy at all.
Whenever you feel overwhelmed and sad, I just want you to know I understand how you feel, and I hope you’ll find the strength and the motivation to get over all these difficult moments.
Just looking in your children’s eyes and then hugging them for a while might give you a little more strength to face all the challenges.
And next time you meet up with another new mom, tell her that she is doing a good job. Be honest with her about everything motherhood really is. Tell her about the joy and the love, but also about the sad moments and the fears.
It could really make a difference in her life.
Being a mom is the most rewarding job you can have, but it’s also the most difficult one. And I want you to know you are not alone.