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This last month of the year was hard for me. Usually, the approach of a new year brings me a high dose of energy. I look back of everything that I’ve accomplished in the past year. I set goals for the new year. And I am looking forward to what future will bring me.
But this year things were different. 2017 has brought me a lot of great moments. But it also brought a lot of doubts and questions about my future.
The truth is that all the years since I’ve become a mom (in 2013) were dedicated to my son and my husband.
The first year was all about taking care of the cute little baby who filled my days with giggles and my nights with long sleepless hours.
The second year was about juggling between my job and my role as a mom. When things seemed to finally settle down, my whole life changed again when my husband got the offer to move to California.
So I decided to put him first, quit my job, and follow him thousands of miles away from home. I knew how important this job was for him and I wanted to support him to make his dream come true.
And here I was, at the end of November last year, with all my life packed in two big backpacks, starting over in a town that I’ve never seen before.
When I realized that I will spend a year at home with my son I was glad to have this chance. And I wanted to make the most of it!
So my last year was all about my son. We spent time in the park, we played, we went to amazing places.
And I loved this!
But looking back at all these four years I can’t help to notice that they have one thing in common: They were so much about my family and so little about myself.
I know that being a mom is about putting your kids first. And that this will always be like this!
But these are one of the best years of my life and I need to make them more about me! So I want 2018 to be the year when I set the most selfish new year resolution that I’ve ever set.
I want this year to be about me.
I need to put myself first more often. Chase my dreams every single day. Do more of what I really love. Dare more and to doubt myself less.
If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.”
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In 2018 I want to dream big! And I want to make my dreams come true.
I need to learn to have more confidence in myself. To stop thinking that I’m not good enough for putting my big plans into practice. To fear less and do more of the things that I’m scared of.
So now, in the last days of the year, I made a commitment to myself: That every single day of the year I’ll try to do little things that make me happy, that I will believe in my dreams, and that I will have the courage to chase them.
As a nice coincidence, after making this commitment, I went to a movie that ended with this quote:
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
So I will let this thought guide me every time when doubts and fears will try to prevent me from chasing my dreams.
My bucket list for 2018
Today I took the first step to keeping this commitment: I started a bucket list of things that would make me happy. And I plan to keep this list for the whole year to help me be more intentional about doing things that bring me happiness.
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I will add there every idea that comes to my mind and I will try to make my wishes come true. I will add small things that can bring me a smile in an ordinary day and big things that I dream of for a long time.
This list is not about checking many things in a short time. It’s about living intentionally, building the life that I dream of, and being grateful for all the happy moments that life offers me.
The future depends on what you do today.” – Mahatma Gandhi
If you want to follow my bucket list and this journey that starts today for me, you can find the list here: Dream big. Dare more. Do the things that make you happy – My bucket list.
I wish you a wonderful new year, with big dreams and happy and meaningful days!
The year-end review of my goals for 2017
Because at the beginning of the year I promised to review my goals in the middle and at the end of the year, I will include my year-end review here.
You can find my 2017 resolutions here. And my mid-year review here. Today I will look back at all the goals that I’ve set at the beginning of 2017 to see what I’ve accomplished and what I’ve learned from what I haven’t accomplished.
1. To spend quality couple time with my husband – We had good and bad moments throughout the year. Overall I can say that it’s still room for a lot of improvement in this area.
2. To learn how to have more patience with my little boy and how to avoid getting angry too fast – I managed to accomplish this for the most part of the year. The last 2 months were particularly difficult and I struggled more with keeping my calm but overall I can feel an improvement.
If you struggle with the same issue, I wrote more about the lessons that I’ve learned here: What helped me become a calmer mom and be gentle with my child even if I’m angry.
3. To accomplish a parenting challenge throughout the year – I did this for almost the whole year. December came with some change of plans but we adapted and managed to end the challenge.
If you want to start this year-long parenting challenge in 2018, you can join here. It’s free and it will help you build a stronger relationship with your kids!
4. To plan more family activities during the week – I changed this goal during the year because I really needed to work in the afternoons. So usually evenings are for dad-son activities while I work on my blog or on other projects.
5. To travel as much as I can – Totally accomplished! You can read more about our trips here: My travel year in review – Our favorite family trips for every month of 2017.
6. To read at least 12 books – To be honest, I lost track of the books that I’ve read but there are most probably more than 12.
7. To create a self-care ritual and to follow it – This is a big fail for me.
8. To face 3 of my fears – I did this! I faced my fear of heights (several times), my fear of approaching people that I admire (and even ask for their support), and my fear of being vulnerable in front of people.
9. To participate in some important events in America – I did this but I hope to be able to participate in even more events next year.
Work & blogging resolutions
10. To assess my professional strengths and set a career path for the next years – This is a fail for me. I am not really sure what my career path will be and this is bringing me a lot of doubts. Hopefully, next year will bring me more answers.
11. To become more organized – Accomplished.
I wrote more on what I’ve learned about becoming more organized here:
12. To learn more about blogging and social media – I learned a lot this year! I never imagined that I could learn so many things in such a short time but I did and I’m very happy about this!
– to accomplish an Instagram challenge – not accomplished
– to optimize my social media accounts and to use them in a smarter way (eliminating the useless time I spend “scrolling” the newsfeed) – partially accomplished
– to write constantly on the blog – accomplished
– to write about all my travel experiences – partially accomplished
– to drink more water every day (this is a real issue for me right now and it’s something I really need to change)- not accomplished
– to take some online courses about management, blogging, and social media – accomplished.
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