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Inside: Every pregnancy is different, but I never imagined that these second pregnancy differences will surprise me so much! If you are pregnant with your second child, here are some of the things that will be different in your pregnancy this time!
The moment when I first saw the two lines on the pregnancy test was a great surprise both times I got pregnant.
When I first got pregnant we were planning on having a baby but a doctor told us that I couldn’t have kids anytime soon so we didn’t expect it to happen as quickly as it did. The second time the surprise was even bigger because we were not planning to have another baby. In fact, we were pretty much sure that we will have an only child, so the news that a new baby will join our family caught us totally unprepared.
The surprise I felt when seeing the positive pregnancy tests was one of the few things that were similar in both of my pregnancies. I knew that every pregnancy is different but I never imagined that there will be so many differences between my current pregnancy and my first one.
1. Second pregnancy differences: The pregnancy symptoms
Not only that it was visible I was pregnant a lot quicker than the first time, but the whole range of symptoms took me by surprise.
The whole first trimester I felt sick all the time. It was so bad that some days I could barely get out of bed. The second trimester came with the first stretch marks on my belly although I used the same creams as during my first pregnancy when I never experienced this. Now I am in the third trimester that came with its own challenges: my belly is a lot bigger than I expected, I get tired quicker, and finding a good sleeping position is a constant struggle during the night.
On the bright side, there are things that are better this time: I felt the baby’s movements a lot quicker and more intense, I stressed less about all the appointments and tests, and I worried less than during my first pregnancy.
2. Second pregnancy differences: A new range of emotions
During my first pregnancy, I was constantly thinking about the baby and the pregnancy. I was trying the do all the right things: eat the right food, take long walks, keep a pregnancy journal, read baby books. It was an exciting period of my life, and I wanted to make sure that I am prepared to offer my baby everything he needs. But the excitement also came with a lot of worries and even with moments of anxiety.
My second pregnancy found me a lot more relaxed. To be honest, having an active boy to take care of all the time prevented me from worrying too much about the pregnancy. Instead, I enjoy the pregnancy more, especially since I know that this will be my last one. Seeing my son get excited about having a sibling brings me a lot of joy, and sharing my pregnancy journey with him makes it even more special.
On the other hand, I do have different worries this time. I wonder how the new baby will impact my son, how our life will change after birth, and if we are emotionally prepared for this big change. I am worried that we will lose the balance that we have now as a family, that my son will struggle with adjusting to the new situation, that I won’t be able to balance the needs of two kids.
Overall, this second pregnancy finds me more relaxed. Even if I am a little scared of the unknown of having a family of four, I decided to not let worry prevent me from enjoying these pregnancy months. Having a baby growing inside me is a miracle and a blessing, and I want to enjoy every moment of it!
3. Second pregnancy differences: The first child makes everything feel different
During my first pregnancy, I was 100% focused on the baby. Now, my son is getting most of my attention, and everything I experience about the pregnancy feels different because of him.
With every new milestone of the pregnancy, I wonder how he feels as well. I loved to see his excitement when he found out he will be a big brother, his curiosity when he first saw the baby on an ultrasound, his joy when he could tell all his friends that “we are expecting” a baby.
Instead of worrying about birth the way I did the first time, this time I worry more about making sure that he will be in good hands while I’m in the hospital. Every decision I take about the new baby also takes him into account. And this makes the whole experience feel a lot different than the first time!
Also, taking care of an active boy while being pregnant makes me gives me less time to rest and focus on myself. The first trimester was really tough and I honestly can’t imagine how I would have handled those first months without the help of my husband. Luckily, my son was very understanding of my situation and helped me a lot during the last months. But even so, combining motherhood and pregnancy felt exhausting at times!
Noticing how different my second pregnancy is from the first, I can’t help to wonder how the first months with the baby will be this second time. I’m sure that it will be a completely new experience for our whole family! Hopefully, everything I learned from my first experience as a mom will help me make the adjustment easier for all of us!
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